One of the most common beliefs I help clients with is the “I’m not good enough” syndrome. When you believe that you are not good enough, it may reveal itself with:
- bravado or false show of confidence;
- lack of motivation;
- anxiety;
- depression;
- weight issues;
- drug/alcohol abuse, including smoking;
- low confidence;
- abusive relationships;
- self-sabotage behaviours;
- and much, much more.
I have worked with hundreds of people who have come in to improve their weight for example, to find an “I’m not good enough” belief at the core of it. Recently I had a client who suffered panic attacks. We traced the fear feeling associated with the panic attacks, all the way back to its origin. At that point, we found a life event which had made her feel that she was not worthy, and this became the core issue.
How to change this limiting belief – not good enough
In changing the mindset around feelings of unworthiness or rejection, I will work with a range of techniques, depending on what my client responds to best. Some of these might include regression therapy, or following the emotion back to its roots, and then changing the experience with the assistance of new resources. I might also use a logic-based, belief challenging technique from Morty Lefkoe. I could use relaxing hypnosis, echoing some of the ideas we’ve discussed in session. I might work on raising my client’s self-esteem using some genetic healing therapy, if the client’s ‘not good enough’ conditioning was due to their upbringing. Working with the inner child is another approach I might use – updating the inner child and allowing the unconscious mind to understand that it is not that little kid anymore. These are just some approaches.
Raising self esteem is a disciplined endeavour. Essentially, your self-esteem rises as you keep commitments to yourself. Then there is an entire neurological component that will help you make the leap from not good enough to worthy. You need to sense yourself as worthy and confident. If you can’t envision it, feel it, see it, hear it, even taste it, how can you achieve it? So there are techniques around this as well.
If you have tried everything to lose weight, quit drinking, stop smoking, follow your dreams, enjoy a rewarding relationship etcetera, and you feel there might be something in the way that feels like, ‘not good enough’, take heart. Hypnotherapy can help.